To cultivate a resilient mindset:
Polish your character: Although resilience is not a personality traits, it is influenced by your character. Flexibility, adaptability, and perseverance are character traits that influence your resilience tank. You can tap into your resilience by changing certain thoughts and beliefs. People who believe that both intellectual abilities and social attributes can be developed show higher resilience to adversity.
Increase optimism. People who are more optimistic tend to feel more in control of their outcomes. People who don’t give up have the tendency to interpret setbacks as temporary, local or isolated events and changeable. People who give up have learned that whatever they do they do not succeed or have any control on the outcome –they learn helplessness – they stop trying to react to setbacks and passively take on whatever comes their way.
To build optimism, focus on what you can do when faced with a challenge, and identify positive, problem-solving steps that you can take. Setting realistic goals and taking breaks to recover from stressors help nurture resilience.
Strengthen connections. Support systems can play a vital role in resilience. Bolster your existing social connections and find opportunities to build new ones. Close ties to family, friends, and community provide a sense of security and belonging. It is impossible to ‘become yourself’ on your own, alone. You need to build your own resilience with the support of other people.
Nurture wholistic fitness: to boost your resilience beware of its’ 4 components. When strengthening psychological fitness, we develop self-awareness, self-regulation and coping strategies, we learn to handle positive and negative affect, strengthen perceived control, on the events, increase self-efficacy, self-esteem, optimism, adaptability and emotional intelligence. Building such psychological fitness requires developing skills that allow to create emotional, family, social, spiritual and physical fitness.
Enhance conversational intelligence – developing strong relationships and finding creative solutions to problems happens through conversations. Assertive communication and effective praise create bonding, trust and connection. Destructive conversations are a real source of toxic impact on people’s resilience. When you learn that you can control how the interaction with other people impacts your emotions and when you learn that you can control the outcomes of your conversations, you are more likely to view yourself as capable and confident. The words you chose express the abundance of your heart and the agility of your mind.
Learn from adversity: You learn from adversity when you:
- Engage others in shared meaning.
- Use distinctive, compelling voice – chose your words to create aspiring worlds.
- Show Integrity – make your deeper held values prevail when making a tough call.
- Show adaptive capacity – ability to grasp context (weight many factors) and hardiness to persevere despite disaster.
Successful people have a strong capacity to learn from adversity, have an innate craving for personal development, curiosity and passion for life. Most people bounce back to where they were before the setback. I hope this article helps you be part of those who bounce back renewed and stronger than before.